What’s it like with your Dom?
Wonderfully simple, actually. That’s the first thing that comes to mind. Being with Sir is so remarkably easy, sometimes I forget he’s actually another person. And that’s saying a lot for me, because I generally kinda hate people. They tend to sap my energy. With him, though, I’m refreshed and invigorated. I actively seek out his company because I genuinely enjoy his presence. We don’t even have to be doing anything. His aura is addicting. He’s warm and comforting and safe. I have no reason to guard myself or be something I’m not around him. If you’ve never experienced that sort of freedom, it’s, well, indescribable really. It’s so pure and effortless that trying to find an accurate portrayal with words is doing it an injustice.
The lack of restraint I feel with him breeds the kind of honest trust that I feel is necessary for a D/s relationship. They go hand-in-hand, really. The more uninhibited I feel with him, the more I trust him, and the more I trust him, the more free I feel. That’s a big part of what submission is to me: completely trusting him and allowing myself to bask in the peace that brings me. And honestly, my mindset of submitting to him drives so much of our relationship. The things we do physically are just extensions of that mentality.
Our physical relationship is quite intense. It’s very primal and very passionate; I crave him constantly. His touch makes me melt like nothing else in this world. I go somewhere else when he fucks me, somewhere where he’s the only thing in the universe. I literally forget that anything else exists. And not only is the sex sublime, he’s desirable in all sorts of ways. He’s incredibly snuggly and affectionate. I just want to be wrapped up in him all the time.
As far as rules and protocol go, we’re pretty relaxed. Goes back to that sense of simplicity. I wasn’t seeking a highly structured relationship, and honestly, I don’t think he wants that either. I did wonder, back in the beginning, if there would be a list of rules or maybe a contract to sign. I had done a bunch of research since I was completely new to D/s, and of course the internet told me all sorts of things that I might expect. There was something about more “traditional” D/s (if you can even call it that), that seemed quite…cold. And even though I was up for trying any sort of new relationship, part of me found the traditional style slightly unappealing. Thankfully, Sir told me very early on that he favored a more sensual approach to domination. And now, having been with him, I can definitely see the difference.
I always feel treasured with him. Supported. Loved. Often I’ll look at our relationship and realize how much of it doesn’t even seem like D/s. Then again, maybe that means we’re doing something right. I feel like there’s a lot of pressure in this community to act a certain way when you don a Dominant or submissive title. But what matters in the end is how you act with each other, and how those personas and energies intertwine. I’ve come to think of our “power dynamic” not as an exchange of power, but rather as a dynamic that creates power. Something happens when we’re together. Somehow we create this incredible, magical, radiant energy that fills not just my entire mind and body but the entire room around us. It’s beautiful. And I wouldn’t change it for the world.