While I’m certainly not swimming in offers of money for sexual acts, I’ve gotten a handful. Let me start by saying that I have no issues with sex work, in fact I’m quite supportive of it and I’ve considered dabbling in it for years. I’ve yet to accept any offers, but maybe one day…
Anyway, what I want to talk about is HOW these offers are made. In my experience, men either offer money up front or they bring it up as a last resort. These are VERY different strategies and they elicit VERY different responses from me.
When a monetary exchange is brought up right away, I will acknowledge it in a polite, thoughtful manner. I might even consider accepting. Why? Because there’s no hidden agenda. Because I’m honestly humbled and often taken aback by someone willing to spend their money on little ol’ me. Because these message are written intelligently. And because these men express that they are perfectly alright if I say no.
But the other method…ugh. I’ve expressed before that I am incredibly repulsed by desperation. When money is mentioned later in conversation, it occurs after I’ve turned them down. They propose the exchange because they think I’ll change my mind, but in reality they only succeed in reducing their chances even more. If I’m not interested in doing something for free, I’m not interested in doing it for money. It’s that simple.