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Showing vs Telling

I want to acknowledge those of you who have taken the time to read my writings.  I hope I’ve told you that I appreciate it, because I genuinely do.  Especially those of you who read several and actually absorb them before messaging me at all, bonus points to you.  You’re doing it […]

I’m not THAT kind of slutty

Or, Why I’m not looking for sex (right now). Just like “unicorn”, the word “slut” has different meanings to me.  There are versions of these words that I identify with, and they both convey images that I try to embody.  But these words also have meanings that do not fit […]

There is no magic formula

When I began exploring casual sex, my profile said something along the lines of, “I do have a type, but I promise that I’m trying to explore beyond what I’m used to.” Well, I’m either bad at keeping promises, or maybe I have a type for a reason. One particular […]


I was recently asked why I have my role set to “evolving” and not “sub.” The fun answer: I saw “evolving” in the list and thought it made me sound like a Pokemon, so I went with it. The sufficient answer: My profile is about me.  My submission is about […]

Fuck me like you hate me

I see this a lot. I don’t get it. If you hate me, I don’t…want you…to fuck me…? So…I’m supposed to want you to fuck me like you’re not fucking me…? What? Am I missing something here? I want you to fuck me like you love me. Like you want […]

Bottoming vs Submission

Words.  Vocabulary.  Definitions and connotations.  I’m a huge fan of words, of language, of communication. As such, I love all the terminology involved in kink.  I like organizing things and grouping and categorizing, because I’m one of those analytical types whose brain is soothed by orderliness.  I like knowing that […]