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Showing vs Telling

I want to acknowledge those of you who have taken the time to read my writings.  I hope I’ve told you that I appreciate it, because I genuinely do.  Especially those of you who read several and actually absorb them before messaging me at all, bonus points to you.  You’re doing it right.

I want to thank you because if your goal is to get to know me, this is how you do it.

One of the world’s most perplexing prompts is “tell me about yourself.”  I’ve even gotten “tell me what kind of person you are.”  It might not seem like it, but that’s a very awkward and pressuring thing to ask of someone, especially a stranger.  Where do I even start?  I’m sure you mean well, but I can’t resist saying “I’m a Capricorn and I love long walks on the beach.”  An eye-roll of a question deserves an eye-roll of a reply, right?

Also, I’ve studied psychology.  I have hundreds of ways of describing myself to you.  I can give you test results if you’d like.  But all that will tell you is what categories I fit into, what buckets you can put me in, what strategies will likely work with me and what you should probably avoid.  That’s a good place to start, but it still won’t tell you who I am.

My writing?  This is me showing you who I am.  The topics I write about?  These are the things that matter to me.  This is how I show you what I’m passionate about, what I find funny, what I’m scared of, or what I’m hoping for.  My cadence and word choice?  This is my voice.  This is how I speak in my mind.  This is me showing you how I think.

To those who’ve said, “I see you have a blog but I’d rather talk to you directly,” I’m sorry but that won’t get you very far.  I don’t operate well with that kind of communication.  I’ll answer your questions but only to the point of a sufficient reply.  I’ll answer you enough to move on.  And I won’t supply much counter-conversation because I’m probably not interested in getting to know you.  No offense, but that’s just not how I want to spend my time.

I put a lot of energy into my writing.  It’s an important part of my self-reflection.  It’s how I work through ideas, how I evaluate new experiences, and how I calm myself from anxieties.  I don’t expect anyone to read my writing, but I do write with the intention of an audience because it helps my process.  If I pretend to explain something to someone else, it helps me explain it to myself, and ultimately that’s the goal.

So again I just wanted to take a moment to recognize those of you who understand what I’m getting at.  It’s truly refreshing to hear from you.


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Miss Skaro

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