I met a guy a few weeks ago for some drinks. I didn’t find that magic attraction thing I’m always looking for, so I politely declined his invitation to take things further.
He attempted small talk a few times since. Hoping he’d take the hint, I ignored his advances.
Then he messaged me again today, saying he’d be in my area soon and suggesting that we should go for drinks again. I answered this time: “I’m not interested, but thanks for thinking of me.”
He replied, “you’re a sweetie.” Kind of a weird way to wrap things up, but sure I’ll take it.
I thought that was the end of it.
“You should reconsider because I’ve been dreaming of licking your pussy for days.” (Paraphrased because I can’t be bothered, but it was something to that effect.)
First of all, trying to convince me that we should get together after I decline is incredibly unattractive. It reads as desperate. Even if it’s phrased well, all I hear is “Oh c’mon please? Give me a chance!”
Second, I think trying to tempt me with a sexual act is really immature. You wanna lick my pussy? Whoop-de-do. So do lots of other people. Your motivation doesn’t make you any more appealing.
I like casual sex in the sense that I don’t need to be ‘in a relationship’ to have fun with someone. I don’t need to have a title in your life; you don’t need to have any particular special place in mine. But I need to like you. And moreover I need to respect you.
When you pull shit like this, you lose my respect.